“If my childhood, teens, and twenties were about wanting people to like me, now I want people to know me.”
Mindy Kaling is back with a collection of personal essays tackling a variety of subjects, from relationships to confidence. Her first book Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? talked about her childhood, her friendships, her start in show business and the progression of her career. In Why Not Me? Mindy gives us a look into her life and her experiences as a successful writer and actress, along with everyday issues and concerns.
I absolutely loved Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?, which had me laughing out loud many times. Her second book definitely still has that Mindy Kaling charm and humour, but feels a little more serious and personal. It shows maturity and a woman who knows who she is, recognizes her faults, insecurities and is very open and honest about it all. I didn’t connect to every single chapter but I truly appreciate the honest and funny nature of her writing, along with the overall message: feel entitled to what you want to achieve, but work hard enough to earn it.
Favourite quote: “People’s reaction to me is sometimes “Uch, I just don’t like her. I hate how she thinks she is so great.” But it’s not that I think I’m so great. I just don’t hate myself. I do idiotic things all the time and I say crazy stuff I regret, but I don’t let everything traumatize me. And the scary thing I have noticed is that some people really feel uncomfortable around women who don’t hate themselves. So that’s why you need to be a little bit brave.”
“This book will take you two days to read. Did you even see the cover? It’s mostly pink. If you’re reading this book every night for months, something is not right.”
With her signature humour and delivery, Mindy Kaling takes us through her childhood experiences, her career evolution, all the way to the fashionable, fabulous and famous person she is today. She includes stories about childhood bullying and friendship, her love of comedy, the highs and lows of starting out in NY, as well as her time working on The Office. Throughout the book she also provides various lists (Best Friend Rights and Responsibilities) and random observations/thoughts (In Defense of Chest Hair).
Is Everyone Hanging out Without Me? is funny and highly enjoyable. It’s been said many times but it’s true, Mindy is simply the best friend you want to have. All her stories/observations are told in a conversational way and with such humour that it feels like she’s speaking directly to you. I feel a lot of what she talks about and the points she makes is very relatable. It’s also one of those rare times I want to listen to the audio version as well because it’s likely hilarious. If you’re looking for a fun, light and entertaining read that will make you laugh, Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? is a great option.
P.S. It did take two days to read.
Favourite quote: “This section is about my attempts to get day jobs. At first I called this chapter “Mama’s Gots to Pay da Bills,” but I thought that title made it sound like maybe I had been a stripper or had a brood of illegitimate children.”